Comments on: How to be Happy

By: Are you the serious type or playful? | :: Interesting Observations ::

Are you the serious type or playful? | :: Interesting Observations :: — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 19:53:11 +0000

[...] seriously that we lose part of our spirit and become dull and lifeless, is the only way to live a happy and fulfilled life! After all, life is short and cannot be taken for granted, can [...]

By: Do Unto Yourself First | :: Interesting Observations ::

Do Unto Yourself First | :: Interesting Observations :: — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 04:48:48 +0000

[...] block] mainly comes because of things going around in our lives. If you’ll stay happy, you won’t get the writer’s block frequently but if you are sad or have something else [...]

By: Being Aware of Now | :: Interesting Observations ::

Being Aware of Now | :: Interesting Observations :: — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 18:29:42 +0000

[...] after our dreams without worrying too much about the outcomes. This is the only way to ultimate happiness. Be aware that what has happened will not change and what has to come, we do not know, there [...]

By: pearl

pearl — Sat, 26 May 2007 04:07:48 +0000

I am glad you took the time to read and enjoyed them ray.. just posted a couple of comments on your site too..
turned out to be a great discussion..

By: Ray Dotson

Ray Dotson — Fri, 25 May 2007 11:43:45 +0000

Great post! You’ve really dug into the subject. I had to write another post on yours and Peter’s responses. Thanks for continuing this conversation!

By: pearl

pearl — Wed, 23 May 2007 10:14:57 +0000

mindset really :) thank you Franco for the nice comment – sure you can add me.. I am going to check out your blog soon… tc and kit

By: Franco Yong

Franco Yong — Wed, 23 May 2007 03:49:18 +0000

Hi Pearl,

I adore your observations. Well, if it is to be, it is up to me. How true. Many of us don’t have the courage to make choices. We get stuck!! Choices empower us. Mindset.

A request. Can I add you to my buddy list at my blog, http://francoyong.blogspot.com?

Bye

Franco

By: pearl

pearl — Tue, 22 May 2007 17:50:10 +0000

Great Peter – I am glad you like the quote (it’s not mine ;)) I am going to check out maile’s blog – thanks for the input..

By: Peter Haslam

Peter Haslam — Tue, 22 May 2007 13:08:35 +0000

I too like your quote. I have posted a response on Maile’s blog. Good thoughts

By: pearl

pearl — Mon, 21 May 2007 18:43:06 +0000

=) Hey I am glad you like it and thank you so much for that post ..

By: Maile

Maile — Mon, 21 May 2007 18:08:14 +0000

Oh, I love that. Another quote to add to my journal :)

By: pearl

pearl — Mon, 21 May 2007 17:23:55 +0000

Exactly, ‘We do have the power to mold OUR perspectives to a certain degree’ as you said. As long as we work on our own perceptions and change the way we think (to positive thinking) then the external events and their outcomes (our expectations) will fall in place where we are automatically in harmony with them.

See the positive and negative outcomes are also our perceptions really. What was that saying? I used to use it in my signature for a long time, and i need to do that again.. its from Anais Nin – we don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. :)

By: Maile

Maile — Mon, 21 May 2007 16:13:31 +0000

Hi Pearl,

I just linked back to your post with a little bit of discussion, but maybe I got your perspective wrong?

My belief is that we do have the power to mold our perspective to a certain degree (focusing on the positive, figuring out what lessons we can learn from things that trouble us, etc.). By changing what we want, we no longer need to change to world to fit our desires...

Basically, the exercises I do are a way of tricking myself into letting life unfold naturally, without trying to change it. (Though I am still thinking these things through--it's the reason I started my blog in the first place.)

By: pearl

pearl — Mon, 21 May 2007 15:56:17 +0000

yes, maile – its just that I believe we really do not have a lot of control over many many things but we continue to ‘try’ to mold just about everything (atleast in our little minds) in a direction WE want and because EVERYONE is doing that, conflicts are bound to happen and THAT leads to unhappiness..

I will be trying to follow your technique this week though :) and will report back.. stay in touch and thank you for visiting :)

By: Maile

Maile — Mon, 21 May 2007 15:49:43 +0000

Thank you for this beautiful post. I agree with so much of what you said, particularly about relaxing and letting go of expectations.

It's something I'm working very hard to do in my life (as my old, negative habits of mind are very deeply ingrained), but it definitely works for me.

My favorite sentence was this: "And when we are empowered, we are automatically happy." I completely agree.