Comments on: Communication, Learning the Basics! http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html Fresh Perspectives on blogging, social media and self improvement! Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:08:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: How do you build relationships with your blog visitors? | Interesting Observations http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-2173 How do you build relationships with your blog visitors? | Interesting Observations Sat, 13 Oct 2007 15:42:34 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-2173 [...] with an intent to cultivate a relationship with our visitors,  because communication, as we all know, is a two way process, of giving and receiving information.  Whether it is [...] [...] with an intent to cultivate a relationship with our visitors,  because communication, as we all know, is a two way process, of giving and receiving information.  Whether it is [...]

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]]> By: Talysha http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-161 Talysha Thu, 14 Jun 2007 19:16:21 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-161 Being an active listener is the most important thing to me. I am constantly working on how to be a better listener and communicator. This post is great!!! Loves it. And thank you for faming me, I also returned the favor. Being an active listener is the most important thing to me. I am constantly working on how to be a better listener and communicator. This post is great!!! Loves it. And thank you for faming me, I also returned the favor.

]]> By: pearl http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-155 pearl Thu, 14 Jun 2007 03:31:09 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-155 mfk - btw, im kidding about the name of the blog and I know you weren't saying that either :D<br/><br/>all good fun - see I agree with you.. communication is a darn difficult thing ;) mfk – btw, im kidding about the name of the blog and I know you weren’t saying that either :D

all good fun – see I agree with you.. communication is a darn difficult thing ;)

]]> By: pearl http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-153 pearl Thu, 14 Jun 2007 02:25:07 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-153 okay... few points if I may..<br/><br/>Rest assured, no one gets offended here.. I wrote what came to mind and invited everyone to let me know what they thought, and you are doing just that! and I appreciate it, believe me! <br/><br/>Now..<br/>1)I honestly didn't think naming my blog "Interesting Observations" could itself become a reason for someone's dislike.. :) It was done on a whim one day.... perhaps I should have thought a bit more carefully...:) <br/><br/>2)I cud easily get away by saying "that's all French to me" since I was a Bio major and had never read Weber.. ;D BUT wait, I am glad that you came by, because heck I had to read weber for the most part of the evening...:) so its all good from that perspective too.. we all learn from each other..<br/><br/>3)No one is incapable of positive thinking!! that negativity is exactly what I am trying to change in me.. <br/><br/>with that said, it would be real nice if you cud share with us what strategies did or didn't work for you in those circumstances!<br/><br/>In any case, please visit again and share your thoughts..<br/><br/>added you on mybloglog!! ;) okay… few points if I may..

Rest assured, no one gets offended here.. I wrote what came to mind and invited everyone to let me know what they thought, and you are doing just that! and I appreciate it, believe me!

Now..
1)I honestly didn’t think naming my blog “Interesting Observations” could itself become a reason for someone’s dislike.. :) It was done on a whim one day…. perhaps I should have thought a bit more carefully…:)

2)I cud easily get away by saying “that’s all French to me” since I was a Bio major and had never read Weber.. ;D BUT wait, I am glad that you came by, because heck I had to read weber for the most part of the evening…:) so its all good from that perspective too.. we all learn from each other..

3)No one is incapable of positive thinking!! that negativity is exactly what I am trying to change in me..

with that said, it would be real nice if you cud share with us what strategies did or didn’t work for you in those circumstances!

In any case, please visit again and share your thoughts..

added you on mybloglog!! ;)

]]> By: harleyblues http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-152 harleyblues Thu, 14 Jun 2007 01:54:38 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-152 YES...<br/><br/>HB YES…

HB

]]> By: MkF aka aWkW'dBaSt'D http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-151 MkF aka aWkW'dBaSt'D Wed, 13 Jun 2007 22:43:27 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-151 Hello again, and thanks for your fine answer.<br/>As I said, I took a chance... And your response is a gem... ;D<br/>I can't help but think I lost an argument of sorts here... lol.<br/>BTW, the 'ideal' I was referring to was to be heard as a mediocre 6th grade level Max Weber would have used it (ideal-type). ;)<br/><br/>Dreaming the world to be an ideal place is a motto I myself am fond of... Sincerely.<br/>But since I am a french guy, I tend :<br/>1) to be incapable of positive thinking<br/>2) to antagonize easily at interesting observations & comments...<br/>3) to mistrust the virtues of listening, be it active/empathic & to think communication relies first on strategy...<br/><br/>Somehow, I hope nobody were offended by my attempt at a theoretical remark. LOL<br/><br/>Keep it up. See you soon. :D Hello again, and thanks for your fine answer.
As I said, I took a chance… And your response is a gem… ;D
I can’t help but think I lost an argument of sorts here… lol.
BTW, the ‘ideal’ I was referring to was to be heard as a mediocre 6th grade level Max Weber would have used it (ideal-type). ;)

Dreaming the world to be an ideal place is a motto I myself am fond of… Sincerely.
But since I am a french guy, I tend :
1) to be incapable of positive thinking
2) to antagonize easily at interesting observations & comments…
3) to mistrust the virtues of listening, be it active/empathic & to think communication relies first on strategy…

Somehow, I hope nobody were offended by my attempt at a theoretical remark. LOL

Keep it up. See you soon. :D

]]> By: pearl http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-150 pearl Wed, 13 Jun 2007 20:25:31 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-150 and BTW mkf, <br/><br/>I LOVED to listen to Bob Costlow's piano tunes, listened to him for the better part of the day!! :) and BTW mkf,

I LOVED to listen to Bob Costlow’s piano tunes, listened to him for the better part of the day!! :)

]]> By: pearl http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-149 pearl Wed, 13 Jun 2007 20:16:15 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-149 mkf.. first of all, welcome and thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment :) <br/><br/>Now if you notice, I don't have an about page on this blog, and there is a reason for that.. I never can talk about myself!! I am a dreamer and am very idealistic - atleast in my thoughts ;) and I 'dream' the world to be an ideal place :) with that said, I guess its not far for me to write such a post, although I do know its far from reality! ;) <br/><br/>but seriously, I read it some place and have known it for a long time that if someone gives you a gift and you decline to accept it, the gift still belongs to that person! <br/><br/>I want to start practicing this thought model, that if somehow I can put myself in a state of compassion for that 'other' person and keep reminding myself that their 'negativity' if you will, is not about me, its really something theirs, I might be able to 'listen' better and communicate better..... <br/><br/>and hey, I also own that famous book by a famous lawyer Gerry Spence.. "How to Argue and Win Every Time" I am so glad you wrote than comment because now i may even win those darn arguments anyway!!!<br/><br/>LOL <br/><br/>tc and kit mkf.. first of all, welcome and thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment :)

Now if you notice, I don’t have an about page on this blog, and there is a reason for that.. I never can talk about myself!! I am a dreamer and am very idealistic – atleast in my thoughts ;) and I ‘dream’ the world to be an ideal place :) with that said, I guess its not far for me to write such a post, although I do know its far from reality! ;)

but seriously, I read it some place and have known it for a long time that if someone gives you a gift and you decline to accept it, the gift still belongs to that person!

I want to start practicing this thought model, that if somehow I can put myself in a state of compassion for that ‘other’ person and keep reminding myself that their ‘negativity’ if you will, is not about me, its really something theirs, I might be able to ‘listen’ better and communicate better…..

and hey, I also own that famous book by a famous lawyer Gerry Spence.. “How to Argue and Win Every Time” I am so glad you wrote than comment because now i may even win those darn arguments anyway!!!

LOL

tc and kit

]]> By: MkF aka aWkW'dBaSt'D http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-146 MkF aka aWkW'dBaSt'D Wed, 13 Jun 2007 12:36:56 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-146 Hi Pearl.<br/>At the risk of seeming awkwardly overcritical, which isn't my point, I think your presentation describes an ideal form of conversation, that relies exaggeratingly on the message itself and on the protagonists' attitudes... Peter points it out relevantly, or so I guess, but i'd come to think that the shadowy part pertaining to feedback, feedback-processing, feedback to feedback, etc represents err... the immersed 4/5 of the iceberg... <br/>But hey, science has yet to produce a satisfactory model on that matter... <br/>WTH, this post of yours is great, very thought-provoking.<br/>I loved reading it. Nice comments as well. Congratulations on the great blog. Hi Pearl.
At the risk of seeming awkwardly overcritical, which isn’t my point, I think your presentation describes an ideal form of conversation, that relies exaggeratingly on the message itself and on the protagonists’ attitudes… Peter points it out relevantly, or so I guess, but i’d come to think that the shadowy part pertaining to feedback, feedback-processing, feedback to feedback, etc represents err… the immersed 4/5 of the iceberg…
But hey, science has yet to produce a satisfactory model on that matter…
WTH, this post of yours is great, very thought-provoking.
I loved reading it. Nice comments as well. Congratulations on the great blog.

]]> By: pearl http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-143 pearl Wed, 13 Jun 2007 02:36:48 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-143 yep, engaging in the conversation and really being there and paying attention to what is being said is crucial to everyone's satisfaction! thank you stopping by Kim.. and appreciating the site (and avatar..;)) yep, engaging in the conversation and really being there and paying attention to what is being said is crucial to everyone’s satisfaction! thank you stopping by Kim.. and appreciating the site (and avatar..;))

]]> By: Kim http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-142 Kim Wed, 13 Jun 2007 02:07:49 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-142 I suppose active listening goes hand in hand with active reading Pearl and ....definitely involves actively engaging with your subject....good points and I like your layout...very fresh.....and your avatar is marvellous !!!!! I suppose active listening goes hand in hand with active reading Pearl and ….definitely involves actively engaging with your subject….good points and I like your layout…very fresh…..and your avatar is marvellous !!!!!

]]> By: pearl http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-141 pearl Wed, 13 Jun 2007 00:51:05 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-141 yes, that actually is one of the best ways to continue! 'listening' to where they are coming from! its really important... hard to do though :) I am the kind to completely withdraw from conflicts and arguments and not want to continue .. the things I listed are things I am working on.. thanks for joining Peter.. your insight is always very useful! yes, that actually is one of the best ways to continue! ‘listening’ to where they are coming from! its really important… hard to do though :) I am the kind to completely withdraw from conflicts and arguments and not want to continue .. the things I listed are things I am working on.. thanks for joining Peter.. your insight is always very useful!

]]> By: Peter Haslam http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-140 Peter Haslam Tue, 12 Jun 2007 23:38:20 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-140 I find that I have to fight building my counter arguement the moment I detect they didn't get the point and lose the balance of the arguement they are making. The only way I seem to counter this is by listening to where they are coming from and then using that knowledge to frame an analogy that would make sense to them. In other words I shift to their language and establish report first. Then argue. I find that I have to fight building my counter arguement the moment I detect they didn’t get the point and lose the balance of the arguement they are making. The only way I seem to counter this is by listening to where they are coming from and then using that knowledge to frame an analogy that would make sense to them. In other words I shift to their language and establish report first. Then argue.

]]> By: pearl http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-139 pearl Tue, 12 Jun 2007 18:02:43 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-139 right :) being truly there is the key Joey.. we are all so wrapped up in high stress these days, that I believe none of us has the time for another! and the biggest aspect we lose is simple ways of communication!<br/><br/>thanks for visiting :) stay in touch!! right :) being truly there is the key Joey.. we are all so wrapped up in high stress these days, that I believe none of us has the time for another! and the biggest aspect we lose is simple ways of communication!

thanks for visiting :) stay in touch!!

]]> By: Joey http://fresh-perspectives.net/2007/06/communication-learning-the-basics.html/comment-page-1#comment-138 Joey Tue, 12 Jun 2007 17:52:14 +0000 http://fresh-perspectives.net/?p=46#comment-138 We have a buzz phrase around here, "Be Present"<br/><br/>Easier said than done sometimes but the point is just because you are in front of someone doesn't mean you are actually "Present". You have to be listening and involved to truly be present. We have a buzz phrase around here, “Be Present”

Easier said than done sometimes but the point is just because you are in front of someone doesn’t mean you are actually “Present”. You have to be listening and involved to truly be present.

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