Comments on: Being Aware of Now

By: Natalie

Natalie — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 04:47:56 +0000

I find it an interesting layer of understanding of what Tolle has to say. It might also be an interesting question to look at the “guilt” as itself being a form of non-presence. I wonder that in living in the now, in presence, that the grief you experienced for not having spent time with your uncles before they died was a reaction to your thoughts of “what should have happened” or “who you thought you should have been”. You did not spend time with them and now (then) they were gone. You made yourself wrong for that, when that is just what happened. It is good insight to have that you avoided them because of a strong difference of opinions, something to observe in other areas of life (if you choose). How many relationships or things do you want that you avoid because of a mind-identified difficulty? Take the awarenes that comes with that and let it unfold in the present as needed. Your resistance to them did not matter to you then, but only as an experience to be dealt with now and utilized for insight. What I am saying is that it is not necessarily important NOW of what you didn’t do in the past. You can’t go back and redo it. No need for grief over what you should have done, only awareness of what presents itself now as an option for relationships (non-avoidance or transcendance).

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SEO — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 10:06:52 +0000

Yes you should i would agree with the above

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SEO Company — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 09:35:30 +0000

The best policy is to live life to the max.

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By: Colin

Colin — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 16:51:42 +0000

Hi Pearl,
Thanks for the redirect to here, it’s a wonderful article.
I learnt a long time ago that yesterday is consigned to history, today is here and now and tomorrow is the future.
I spend many hours talking with my teenage daughter when she stays with me, and we cover my past in whatever she needs to know….although some things are best left unsaid ie: serving in the armed forces as a teenager in N.Ireland…..but that was my job at the time.
Life changes, my father died at 52 and mother at 55. My fathers death really shook me up and I then started to look at life in a different way, and it works for me :o)
You can leave quite a void with ‘if only’ so you have to turn it ‘I did’ and have no regrets.
Take care my friend :o)

By: laketrees

laketrees — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 00:39:55 +0000

sounds great Pearl….there’s nothing like the seashore…hearing the waves gently lapping……we call it the beach over here where the waves literally roar :}

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Naked Yak » Blog Archive » Thinking In The Moment — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 10:24:10 +0000

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By: NakedBiff

NakedBiff — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 08:50:26 +0000

I agree. I do a lot, but think a lot more. I’m trying to find a way to shift the balance more over to the ‘do’ side of the equation. It is very easy to get lost in one’s thoughts.

The Daily OM has some very interesting articles on state of mind that I think you might like: http://www.dailyom.com/

By: pearl

pearl — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 23:50:40 +0000

nice to have you back Kim… I am glad your dental appointments are out of the way now :) and you are right, we get bogged down in messy life sometimes and forget to have fun and take things lightly…. Im also trying to do things I love, being myself and just let go …… SO, spent the entire day at the shore today :)

By: laketrees

laketrees — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 23:36:53 +0000

the simplest of things make me happy at the moment….Pearl….
like knowng that I don’t have to go to the dentist for a while…haha :}
my life changed in 2002 when my dear Dad passed away…I am trying very hard to do what my Father always loved to do…and that is spending time with my family and “doing” things that I am passionate about..

By: pearl

pearl — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 01:59:35 +0000

thats exactly the attitude I am trying to adapt to Sue……… Just what was on my mind at the moment and it does work everytime I read it… although its a different story that I fall back into the trap of emotions from time to time!!

By: Sueblimely

Sueblimely — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 00:10:38 +0000

Excellent article Pearl. The key to living happily as far as I am concerned. It took me so many years to learn this lesson and incorporate it totally into my life. It was not until a major life crisis that I was forced to study the lesson hard, believe in it and learn it to survive. I should have taken the time many years before. That word ’should’ comes with no regret attached to it as it would have done before though. I used to spend far too much time on should have and should do. Today is now good and tomorrow will be good, whatever it brings. I now live life rather than constantly thinking about life.

By: pearl

pearl — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 00:00:11 +0000

Ken, Tom and Deb…… I believe there isn’t a living soul who hasn’t experienced some sort of tragedy… we are all going through some of the same experiences, dealing with them in ways that feel right at the moment……

i have been trying to come to terms with this as is the entire family… and its never never easy…. but I want to develop a level of detachment where I don’t feel as broken and shattered when something like this happens… and as Deborah said, taking the time to say a hello is all thats needed sometimes !

thank you so much for commenting…

By: pearl

pearl — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 23:48:40 +0000

Kaylee… thats the best way to live – just enjoying these very moments… hope you are feeling better – will be thinking of you!

By: pearl

pearl — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 23:47:28 +0000

hi RennyBA – if we could save time in a bottle…:) right – these very moments … im trying to stay in the moment and not worry about anything else! thanks for stopping by… and thanks for the mention… i’ll check it out soon

By: Deborah

Deborah — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 07:47:41 +0000

I think most of us who have experienced death by a close friend or family member have gone thru the very same thing, thinking of ‘if only’s’. I can tell you this by much personal experience :-)

It’s a wake-up call to live life the way you want it to be, and accept that the past is what it is and learn to stop beating yourself up over it. If only’s can’t change what’s happened.

It’s so easy to fall behind on calling a good friend or visiting someone with the busy lives we maintain these days.

By: Tom

Tom — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 04:54:57 +0000

Very personal post Pearl, we all appreciate your willingness to share so much with us. I like the way Ken put it above, but for me it’s much more of nebulous, foggy sort of thing since I lost my dad. Never seems quite so organized for me.
Also, thanks for the comment on my site, I answered it there too…

By: Ken Xu

Ken Xu — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 02:35:55 +0000

Past: Feedback for Present. Present:BluePrint for Future. That’s what my principle about life. :)
Losing relative is part of my feedback too. I lost my father 7 years ago. And I’m making it as my feedback to care my mother more.

By: kaylee

kaylee — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 00:40:44 +0000

THis is a touching post to me too.I have lost many relatives in the last few years.My view on life? Is just to live the best you can because you can be gone any day.Appreciate life while you can.Yes i look at my past everyday :)

By: RennyBA

RennyBA — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 20:43:39 +0000

This was a very touching post and a great reminder. In our busy life we often tends to rush ahead in stead of staying in the past – to wish for all the things we don’t have, instead of being happy for what we’ve got. I’m thinking of the song: ‘… if one could save time in a bottle..’ but we can’t! So when life is passing by, we often forget that the journey is the life in itself.

Btw: I’m here to thank you for Faming me! I’ve returned your favor of course and also listed you on my BtF post.