03 Feb
Posted by pearl as Guest Blogging, Personal Development, Self-Improvement
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February 2nd was Groundhog Day in North America. And as Punxsutawney Phil, the one and the only official Weather Forcasting Groundhog declared that there will be six more weeks of winter, I had started to lose hope to get back in the swing of writing. But then, came this guest post by Paul Hannam, the author of The Magic of Groundhog Day, the book that is based on the movie Groundhog Day.
Author Paul Hannam believes that watching the movie, Groundhog Day, will teach you more about life and work than anything else you can do in less than two hours! He has taught thousands of people on personal development, and taught management and organizational psychology at Oxford University and in his new book, The Magic of Groundhog Day, he explains why the movie is so inspirational and life-changing.
I have found the movie so invaluable because it helps me see each day as a unique opportunity to improve the way I think, feel and act. We all feel stuck at times in our life. The difference is that, in the movie, Phil Connors is literally stuck in the exact same, repeating day. The town never changes; the events and the people never change. Only he can change. It is impossible for Phil to have any control over his outer world, so he is forced to change himself.
Groundhog Day brilliantly dramatizes one of the greatest spiritual and psychological lessons – that change comes from within, and that only we can create meaning and happiness in our lives. Every form of therapy and every self-help technique supports this wisdom, and nothing illustrates it better than the movie.
Phil has to find a meaning and purpose for his life to survive and prosper. It is the only way out of the time loop, and it is our only way out of a rut. He transforms his life by experimenting each day with new thoughts, attitudes and behaviors. He changes his life day by day and transforms the worst day of his life into the best day of his life. I find this idea very inspiring.
All that changes is his perspective on life, and we can emulate this in our own lives to turn a miserable day into a magical day. We all share this remarkable gift, the capacity to make today better than yesterday - and tomorrow better than today.
An Experiment for Transforming your Life Day by Day
Try this experiment. Tomorrow, when you wake up, imagine how you would feel if you too were stuck in time, about to re-live yesterday in the same place, doing the same activities, repeating the same conversations with the same people. What would you do differently?
How would you have made yesterday better?
Maybe you would have been less harsh with your partner, or listened more attentively to a colleague who needed your help or perhaps you would have phoned a friend to tell them how much they meant to you. And what about work?
Would you have spent more time on that important project that could boost your career – and less time lost in thought about how you dislike your boss, or what you are going to do at the weekend?
Well, you can’t change yesterday but the good news is that you can change today. You can press your personal reset button and forget about yesterday. You don’t need to carry yesterday’s mood into today. Like Phil, you can choose to make this day terrible or great.
How do you transform a Miserable Day into a Great Day?
The first step is to stop living on automatic pilot, and return your awareness to the present moment. I call this the Magic of Paying Attention. In the movie, when Phil first arrives in Punxsutawney he is oblivious to the town and its people. He is sleepwalking through his life, completely self-absorbed. By the end of the movie he is awake, and absorbed not in his own ruminations but in the rich drama of the community he has learn to love and serve.
How about you? How much of what you do is the same as yesterday? How much of your day did you spend lost in thought, unconscious to life around you?
I believe that we largely re-live the same day again and again in our heads. We tend to have the same thoughts, the same emotions, the same hopes and anxieties and the same moods. We are not trapped by a time loop. We are trapped instead by our conditioning that is like a gravity that holds us down, keeping us stuck in old patterns and habits going back to our childhood. Every day can seem the same if we experience it through our past conditioning, rather than in the present moment.
The good news is that we can break free of our conditioning. It all starts by paying attention as soon as you wake up. Start by altering your routine when you get out of bed. Do some yoga stretches instead of watching the TV news, eat something different for breakfast and travel a different way to work. Then during the day catch yourself slipping back into conditioned responses.
Stop yourself falling back on the old patterns of seeking approval, being in control or avoiding conflict. These patterns are not you, and you can get out of your rut and experience the magic of everyday life when you are mindful and shift back to the present moment.
Experiment with a new response. When your partner looks at you in that annoying, disapproving manner don’t fall for it. Break your patterned response, and just smile. This is your greatest gift. You can choose to let your partner control your mood, or take back charge yourself and not let anyone or anything disturb your balance and peace of mind.
The genius of the movie is that it intensifies all the focus on us to change ourselves, because everything else is fixed. Every day, Phil can try a new behavior and then measure and evaluate the results. He learns to realize that he cannot seduce Rita, he cannot manipulate her to fall in love with him. It is only when he becomes genuinely loving that she falls in love with him. If you do the same as Phil, if you experiment and evaluate the results in your journal you will make subtle changes in just one day. Then over a week and a month this new self-awareness will lead to a significant transformation.
By practicing moment to moment awareness we come alive and experience a world of hope and possibility. This is the first, crucial step in leading the life you choose to live, not the life you were conditioned to live. This is the Magic of Groundhog Day!
Paul Hannam, author of the Magic of Groundhog Day
27 Responses
Mihaela Lica
February 3rd, 2008 at 6:31 pm
1Brilliant! Purely brilliant!
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pearl
February 3rd, 2008 at 8:14 pm
2Mig - guess we can learn from just about anything in life and Paul’s msg is very powerful - we can turn everything around for the better I guess… I so need to try this! glad you found it good
David Deangelo
February 3rd, 2008 at 8:14 pm
3I use this principle excessively. I love to improve myself in all the ways I can, daily, and if you follow that every day, you’ll really notice a GREAT improvement in your life in even a month. Carpe Diem.
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teeni
February 3rd, 2008 at 8:47 pm
4What an interesting post. I was wondering what I was getting into when I read the title, but it all makes sense now. LOL.
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Jay, writer MemberSpeed.com
February 3rd, 2008 at 9:01 pm
5I have never seen Groundhog Day but maybe I should. I love what you shared about the Magic of Paying Attention. Sometimes, it’s the little things that create the difference in my day. It could be something I just saw out of the blue while turning a corner or a color I never really took notice of before. When you start to pay attention, despite the same routine you have everyday, something changes.
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Shawn
February 3rd, 2008 at 10:43 pm
6Thanks, Paul. I’ve always been a big fan of Groundhog Day, but I never thought about it in this context, at least not consciously. Your observation is spot on: “The town never changes; the events and the people never change. Only he can change.” A great reminder for us.
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pearl
February 3rd, 2008 at 11:01 pm
7@David - isn’t it something? simplest of messages are so powerful sometimes!
@teeni - it indeed is an interesting concept!
@Jay - great observation! good to have you here..
pearl
February 3rd, 2008 at 11:04 pm
8@Shawn - Im sure Paul will answer you too but I just wanted to say - thank you for stopping by and commenting! Its these simple things that if we pay attention to, can bring about a huge change in the quality of our lives..
Paul Hannam
February 3rd, 2008 at 11:20 pm
9Hi Shawn. Although we are not stuck in time, I find it interesting that so much of our daily life does remain the same. Although other people and events vary each day our perception, attitudes and responses tend to stay fixed - so we might as well be stuck in time. We tend to get into the same dynamics with people, especially friends and families. I notice it most when I spend time with a group of friends I have known over 30 years, and how we revert to familiar old roles and rivalries. It’s very powerful and can easily keep us stuck, unless we make a conscious effort to stay aware and choose a new response.
pearl
February 3rd, 2008 at 11:36 pm
10thats such a nice reminder Paul, and its interesting that when we see the same people, we so quickly resurface any negative associations with them that our present moments get ruined instantly! I never thought of this as being stuck! its a powerful revelation indeed!
amypalko
February 4th, 2008 at 3:01 am
11What a wonderfully inspiring post! I absolutely love Groundhog Day - I think it is such a special movie which retains its magic long after its first viewing. I actually think that movies in general can be wonderful for facilitating our self-development. The Truman Show, The Matrix and K-Pax are 3 other movies, off the top of my head, that also provide much food for thought.
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Simonne
February 4th, 2008 at 3:14 am
12This is one of the movies I like. And I’ve always believed that each day we have the choice to make that day the way we want it to be.
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Buzzing with Ange
February 4th, 2008 at 4:25 am
13What an inspiration! Groundhog Day the movie is one of my favorites and I have watched it more than once. I guess it’s that feel good theme that had me coming back. Every day is a great day and an opportunity to do things differently than the day before. Observing in particular the little things and habits that we have which we can improve on, can make all the difference to the life we live and keep adjusting and changing to make it even better.
Thanks Pearl for finding this gem and thanks Paul for this terrific post!
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pearl
February 4th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
14@amypalko - I recently watched Juno and I think there was a huge message in that movie too… but again, like the post emphasizes, only if we pay attention, then we can extract some good from each and every situation!
glad to have you amy
@Simonne - yep, so many times we just keep going through life without making choices - adapting to whatever is thrown our way..
@Ange - I have yet to see the movie but Im so looking forward to it… I love Bill Murray anyway, so this should be good
Paul sure has brought a wonderful light to the movie and I am so glad to have ‘met’ him!
Kenric
February 5th, 2008 at 1:22 am
15Great post. I think the 4HWW blog posted something similar to this last week. It’s amazing what that movie has done for people and for the day Groundhog day. I am going to try something different tomorrow, I’ll come back and post if I actually go through with it.
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pearl
February 5th, 2008 at 7:20 am
16Good Idea Ken! Glad you are going to try the experiment! Im also trying it this week
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February 5th, 2008 at 11:58 am
17At first with the title I thought this post was going to be a joke. But I read on, and you have some great points. We should learn to take a little better look at our daily lives and make adjustments as needed.
Very nicely written!
journeytime
February 5th, 2008 at 3:46 pm
18hello,
the movie was one of the greatest movies i have seen for the very reasonms that you are mentioning.
at last count i have seen it five times—it has a lot of qualities that are relevant to living a fulfilled life.
firstly getting rid of the anger for being there in the first place–being adventurous—flexible–being able to learn from one’s experiences—challenging oneself—learning new skills—leaving the fear behind–being curious–HAVING FUN– being selfless—being polite to the people that you meet–you could meet them again and again–being determined in the face of known odds–in this case he finally came to the realisation that everyday was going to be the same and the only difference was what he put into that day—how different is that from everyday life–and finally when he had done a complete turnaround the day changed—hs attitude sucked at the beginning of the movie and at the end he was a feeling caring person who got the woman of his dreams–anything is possible in life–if one were only to give it a chance
thanks for a great posting
take care
derick
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pearl
February 5th, 2008 at 7:04 pm
19Hi Derick - I agree, we simply have to be willing to try a change in our own behavior and everything else could follow!
thanks for stopping to comment… hope to see you around here again
Paul Hannam
February 5th, 2008 at 10:30 pm
20Derick - I have seen Groundhog Day over 20 times, and I can promise you that I enjoy the movie more now than ever before. I don’t think I have seen any other movie more than 3-4 times though I watch several new movies every week. Once you really get the big idea in this movie, that you can change your life day by day, you will want to return to that magical February day in Punxsutawney again and again!
Brian
February 6th, 2008 at 4:54 am
21It was a brilliant movie. I remember watching it and thinking about all the things I would learn if I had eternity to learn it in.
I hadn’t really though about the effect its had on my psyce before, but I guess it could be seen that way.
pearl
February 7th, 2008 at 1:15 am
22Hi Brian: I have yet to watch the movie, and I am looking forward to it. See, thats the thing though, we know we don’t have eternity…. so it’s all the more important to learn to change ourselves for the better and learn to live in the moment, I think.
welcome to the site! Hope to see you here again….
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Diana13
February 7th, 2008 at 3:46 am
23Great post. I will try those experiments, too. And I like Groundhog Day movie very much. I’ve watched it several times.
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pearl
February 7th, 2008 at 9:44 am
24@Diana - would love to hear from you on how the experiment works for you!
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25[...] day, month after month, until everything starts looking like “deja-vu”, like in the Groundhog Day [...]
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June 16th, 2008 at 7:24 pm
27I have never seen this movie, but it reminds me of this professor who is currently dying of cancer who gave these speeches on how to live life. And the powerful message he gave was basically life is too short, and even the fact that he’s dying, he is still managing to have fun.
That definitely opened my eyes a LOT, sort of like how this movie reminds so many people to just pay attention to the small things…
Damn, I might have to go check out this movie!
Jay
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