A How-to Guide for When Things Fall Apart

What happens when things don’t go as planned?  How do you react? Do you get frustrated?  Do you spin your wheels faster? Do you give up altogether?   What happens with your thoughts?  Hopefully after reading this the following points, you will be better equipped to handle such situations.


Remove Judgment

We have to be careful with judgments and assumptions. For example, if you have decided not to drink alcohol but then go out and have a few drinks, do you then believe things are not going as planned? Do you believe you have blown it and give up on your plan? Be cautious about what you think is negative or what you think is not a part of the plan. Learn to step back and put it into perspective. When we experience a tragedy, we have to slow down the mental aspect. Stop and realize that the past is gone, the future is yet to be, and that all we have is this moment, where we can choose again. Setbacks are not failures.

Back to Basics

If something happens to disrupt your plan, you need to get back to the basics. Ask yourself why you are doing the things you are doing, i.e. why are you going after a specific project and why did it not go as planned? If you feel things are not progressing in your life, even though you are putting out so much time and effort, you may be stuck on getting “the want.”   Sometimes we hammer away so hard, especially those of us with Type-A personalities, we don’t realize we have to put away our hammer and pull out the screwdriver.

Review your plan, your goals, and your reasons, reevaluate your goals and journal to help you work through what happened and see things from a new perspective.  Once you get an inventory of where you are, organize.  Perform the “plan-do-act” checklist.  When you do this, you are taking action to realize that “something isn’t working as far as your perception goes.”  Plan to get yourself back on track and moving in the right direction.  As you organize, you will get back to the basics and create structure.


Gratitude Gets You There

Change your perspective and adopt massive gratitude. Make a list of what makes you happy and for what you are thankful. Thirty minutes of personal growth will help provide understanding of why you are doing the things you are doing, allowing you to focus on the 1% day-by-day growth and enable you to keep moving forward.


Everything Happens for a Reason

Reviewing your goals and focusing on your growth is the key to getting things back on track when you have lost it.  How do you break the pattern of negative energy?  As Morning-Coach people, we have to be able to realize that things happen for a reason. We need to let go of anger, frustration and ego.  Things really do always going as planned; it is our perception and the way we think about things that prohibits us from seeing it that way. Sometimes we simply get in our own way.

If you find yourself stuck, get back to the basics.  If you have been pushing really hard, slow down, meditate, release, let the Universe work for you and get out of your own way. Open your eyes and put things in perspective.  Take an inventory of where you are and see what steps you need to take to get the clarity that you need. Focus on understanding that the greater good is conspiring for you.  Allowing yourself to see things from a new perspective may help you work through those troubling times when things are not working the way you would like or as fast as you would like.


Author Bio:

Luis Rosario is the Director of Communications / Event Relations for MorningCoach.com, with an educational background in Sociology and Inter-cultural Communications. His mission is to change the world for the better one event at a time!
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2 Responses to “ A How-to Guide for When Things Fall Apart ”

  1. Deference to article author, some wonderful information.

  2. Great article! About a year ago my life was pretty much falling apart. My business fall apart, I had just went through a bad break up, everything was just going wrong.

    I think what people need to realize is that when things seem to be falling apart, it really isn’t that bad. As long as you are constantly motivated to grow and learn from your mistakes you are going to be ok. Just keep pushing forward and sooner or later things will have to give :)
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