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It's been over two months since I've updated this blog and even though I browse through the web and meet/talk and socialize with many of you on various networking sites, I have to be honest that something inside me is not the same as before. The months after my father's passing haven't been easy on any of us in the family but it's been even tougher on our mother who is often hears him calling her name out for something. His presence in every room is still felt and even though we are comforted in the thoughts that he is around us and amidst us, the helplessness and not being able to see his physical self is just beyond any words could explain.

For me, there have been sudden and unannounced crying bouts at odd times and odd places, more so in my car while going home after work, which automatically disappear after some time. They are like spasms that come fast and make you feel like nothing in the world matters any more. All kinds of emotions, anger, helplessness, frustration, sadness, depression – any of these prop up at different times causing a lot of stress. Needless to say, it's been one of the most difficult things I have experienced.

With so much stress there have been many days when it became a burden to just get through the day let alone accomplish something. But, I am managing well so far. And the credit goes to all of you. My online community of friends – who are the reason I am able to write this post. You are the reason I have been able to keep my sanity many days when all else failed. The days when during my sadness, I didn't have the energy to do anything, when I wanted to be all alone yet needed the quiet support. It was easier reading your emails and short messages full of love, support and advice on twitter and StumbleUpon, than picking up the telephone to talk to someone. Your kind gestures, expressions of sympathy and offers to help out with this blog, everything – comforted and helped to pick up my spirit.

So, in this post, I want to take the time to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for being there for me.

Steven @ http://traffikd.com/

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Anna @ Stumble Upon

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Glen @ http://www.viperchill.com/blog/

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Alex @ http://www.thenext45years.com/

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Barbara @ http://www.scvlife.net/

Maura @ http://momcominghome.com/

My Heartfelt Thanks!

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66 comments
Mike Scott

It’s the least I could do Pearl. Hang in there!

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pearl

little things mattered a lot Mike… thank you for always being there..

Maura

Pearl,

It’s good to see your post.

Be patient and kind to yourself while you experience all the emotions that make up your own unique grief. The road to healing can be a crazy ride. {{{hugs}}}

Take care,

Maura

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Ange Recchia

Pearl, we could all use a group hug from time to time… HUGS

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Don

Pearl , look for my e-mail , please

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pearl

@Don: I’ll wait for your email..

@Maura: you are so right about it… we missed him this memorial day weekend terribly coz he used to spend it mending his kitchen garden, it’s been over two months and still feels he’s not gone forever, that he’ll just show up somewhere.. it’s a horrible emptiness when the whole family gets together for something, we feel so incomplete. thank you for stopping by Maura..

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Monika Mundell

It is obvious that you are a very special person Pearl. I’ve thought about you several times over the last couple of months and wondered how you were coping with it all.

Good to see that you are not alone in this and with time your gashing wounds will start to heal. Death is horrible at any time for those left behind, but it also signifies a new beginning.

Please take care and know that we are all thinking of you.

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Pearl

Hi Monika: that’s so thoughtful of you! It definitely is a new beginning and a pretty challenging one. As I was writing on Scott’s blog last night, I was always closest to my dad in the family so there’s a huge void to deal with. It’s a frustrating experience as when I see my mom, I can’t tell whose grief is more, hers or mine? They were known as ‘love birds’ amongst their friend circle..

but like you said, the support I got from you guys is priceless! so THANK YOU.

mark

Hi Pearl – Sorry, I am getting to this a little late…

I just wanted to say I hope you are doing okay. Since I have not lost a parent yet I won’t even pretend to know how you are feeling, but from the comments above you have many people on your side and hopefully you can draw some strength from that.

As for what you should be writing about, you are quite obviously a very talented writer! Don’t feel rushed and when you are ready maybe write about what makes you FEEL better.

If you need to post about how you are feeling then you should. I am sure there are MANY people who are dealing with the loss of a parent that would stand to gain a tremendous amount from you.

Whatever you decide, I am going to keep reading. :)

Take care, and be well.
MH

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pearl

Hey Mark:

Believe it or not, I had started writing this post a few weeks ago but every time I opened it, couldn’t continue, so its a state of mind that’s not going away anytime soon but I am doing better. About your parents, I have only one thing to say – spend as much time as you can with them NOW so there are no regrets

I missed all of you a lot so writing this post and talking to everyone has really felt good. Good idea on writing what makes me feel better.

thank you so much for stopping by and don’t worry about the time. Those are some very nice things you said there! and THANK you for the reassurance to come back to read! Gives me a lot of courage to continue….